Don’t be too quick to label yourself as someone with “low libido”!
In today’s fast-paced world, it’s perfectly normal for desire to feel fleeting or inconsistent—especially with all the pressure and fatigue many of us are under. But here’s the truth: very few people are truly asexual or have lifelong low libido. In most cases, it’s not that you lack desire altogether—it’s that you haven’t yet discovered what actually turns you on, or you’ve been consistently exposed to things that turn you off.

So, before jumping to conclusions, we recommend taking a “Dual Control Sexual Desire Test” to understand how your sexual desire works. Once you understand your patterns—whether you’re more easily turned on (accelerators) or turned off (brakes)—you can begin making changes that support a more satisfying intimate life.

In simple terms, it’s about developing your sensitivity to erotic cues:

Explore different types of stimulation (touch, sound, scent, visual, taste)

Try out new sexual scripts or fantasies

Experiment with new positions, toys, or settings

Foster a deeper emotional and physical connection with your partner

At the same time, avoid the kinds of stressors or mental blocks that “hit the brakes” on your desire. When you find the right mix of stimulation and emotional safety, your libido can feel like it’s zooming down the highway at full speed!