Absolutely — sexual desire can be consciously activated and strengthened over time! While libido is partially influenced by hormone levels, it can also be manually stimulated through things like sexual fantasies or external triggers.

In 2009, Canadian sex researcher and clinical psychologist Meredith Chivers found that women can develop desire through sexual arousal. In other words, female desire isn’t random or uncontrollable — it’s often responsive. That means instead of desire sparking spontaneously, it can grow in response to the right cues.

For example:

A relaxing and comfortable environment

Engaging in a sexual script or fantasy you enjoy

Scheduling intimate time together

Trying something new with your partner

When you’re in a situation that aligns with your desires, your libido can rise rapidly.

This ties back to the previous point — by understanding what turns you on and what turns you off, you gain the power to guide and grow your desire. It’s not about waiting for the mood to strike — it’s about creating the mood that works for you.