First of all, there’s no one-size-fits-all standard when it comes to sex.

Even how we define sex varies from person to person.
Some people consider oral or manual stimulation a full sexual experience. Others feel that using toys together counts. For some, a rope bondage session might qualify. Even cuddling, kissing, and deep touch can feel just as intimate and fulfilling.

Add to that the fact that everyone’s body, energy levels, and life stressors are different—and it becomes even harder to say what’s “normal” or “good.”

That said, here are a few general principles to help gauge the quality of your sex life:

The current frequency doesn’t interfere with your daily life or work.

Both partners feel satisfied with the current frequency and type of intimacy.

Quality over quantity — each experience feels meaningful, emotionally and physically satisfying, leaves you feeling connected, and strengthens the relationship.
It’s not just about friction between bodies, but about true emotional and physical connection.